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Just a few of my thoughts...Enjoy!!
Monday, August 11, 2014
#MCM
Yep. As I date I think about what attracts me physically. And Man Crush Monday is a real thing. It's still Monday where I am so...
A Moment Or A Movement #MikeBrown
Last night I received a call from my brother asking about my thoughts regarding the situation in St. Louis. I had no idea what he was talking about but I listened in horror as he described the recent events surrounding Mike Brown. As with so many other news story there's another young black boy dead. No justifiable reason for the murder. Just something someone felt inclined to do at the time.
With each incident I read about my heart always cries out for the families, the local community, and the state of the country. It hurts to know I live in a country that boasts freedom yet I could be shot at any moment for no reason and no justice will be served. As much as most stories hit close to home as I think about the safety of the black men that I love most this story is home. As a St. Louis native this story could literally be my brother, cousin, friend, former classmate, or a long list of others. It hurts to see my city hurting and acting out as a result of misguided pain and frustration.
Question: We know the problem, but what is the solution?
At this point, I don't know. Some things I do know are unity and cooperation are requirements. Two heads are better than one. We are stronger together that we are apart. The pooling of talents, wisdom, experience, and connections could produce the formula needed to solve the problem. A formula that includes leadership, short and long term plans, organization, and education.
I pray for my hometown. I pray for peace, healing, and guidance.
With each incident I read about my heart always cries out for the families, the local community, and the state of the country. It hurts to know I live in a country that boasts freedom yet I could be shot at any moment for no reason and no justice will be served. As much as most stories hit close to home as I think about the safety of the black men that I love most this story is home. As a St. Louis native this story could literally be my brother, cousin, friend, former classmate, or a long list of others. It hurts to see my city hurting and acting out as a result of misguided pain and frustration.
Question: We know the problem, but what is the solution?
At this point, I don't know. Some things I do know are unity and cooperation are requirements. Two heads are better than one. We are stronger together that we are apart. The pooling of talents, wisdom, experience, and connections could produce the formula needed to solve the problem. A formula that includes leadership, short and long term plans, organization, and education.
I pray for my hometown. I pray for peace, healing, and guidance.
Young, Lively, and Single
Hola!!
It has been a long time since I've written anything. I can definitely say life has taken some interesting new turns. I have found a new job, joined new organizations, reevaluated my relationships in a major way. With the school year ending and the summer of freedom beginning I decided to explore dating more. Since making that decision I have been on several dates with a variety guys. Some great, some not so awesome.
As I have evaluated my dating experiences and reflected on my judgments of the guys I've been out with I have started to narrow down what I'm looking for in a potential mate and what type of relationship I am currently seeking. I've decided I need a real man as a potential mate. Then I had to ask the question: What is a real man to me? My answer: someone respectful, chivalrous, honest, hard-working, and selfless. All of the things I was taught to a real man is by my father.
This is something I really thought about during a conversation at a dinner table with friends. During casual conversation a young woman said she couldn't date a man that was college educated. I almost laughed out loud because I used to think the same thing. I wanted the doctor/lawyer driving the nice car and living in a really expensive penthouse apartment. After walking through lakes of fire last year I have reevaluated my entire life. It's laughable and sad to think a college degree would make someone a great mate. Completely ruling out all of the other qualities that make a person wonderful and keep a relationship together, strong, and healthy. As long as my husband is committed to working and providing for our family his profession makes no difference to me.
Back to my questions, I also had to ask what type of relationship am I looking for? I constantly bounce between I want a husband, baby, and white picket fence and I really want to gallivant in the wonderful, free world of singledom! I've decided my issue is not settling. I would be happy to find the man of my dreams tomorrow but that doesn't seem like it will happen. So until then I will continue to happily skip through Singlesville. Just window shopping along the way. I'm having a blast meeting new people, trying out new places around town, and getting to know myself.
For now I will continue to dance through Singlesville town square. I'll keep you posted!
It has been a long time since I've written anything. I can definitely say life has taken some interesting new turns. I have found a new job, joined new organizations, reevaluated my relationships in a major way. With the school year ending and the summer of freedom beginning I decided to explore dating more. Since making that decision I have been on several dates with a variety guys. Some great, some not so awesome.
As I have evaluated my dating experiences and reflected on my judgments of the guys I've been out with I have started to narrow down what I'm looking for in a potential mate and what type of relationship I am currently seeking. I've decided I need a real man as a potential mate. Then I had to ask the question: What is a real man to me? My answer: someone respectful, chivalrous, honest, hard-working, and selfless. All of the things I was taught to a real man is by my father.
This is something I really thought about during a conversation at a dinner table with friends. During casual conversation a young woman said she couldn't date a man that was college educated. I almost laughed out loud because I used to think the same thing. I wanted the doctor/lawyer driving the nice car and living in a really expensive penthouse apartment. After walking through lakes of fire last year I have reevaluated my entire life. It's laughable and sad to think a college degree would make someone a great mate. Completely ruling out all of the other qualities that make a person wonderful and keep a relationship together, strong, and healthy. As long as my husband is committed to working and providing for our family his profession makes no difference to me.
Back to my questions, I also had to ask what type of relationship am I looking for? I constantly bounce between I want a husband, baby, and white picket fence and I really want to gallivant in the wonderful, free world of singledom! I've decided my issue is not settling. I would be happy to find the man of my dreams tomorrow but that doesn't seem like it will happen. So until then I will continue to happily skip through Singlesville. Just window shopping along the way. I'm having a blast meeting new people, trying out new places around town, and getting to know myself.
For now I will continue to dance through Singlesville town square. I'll keep you posted!
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